I often find that relationships are one of the most prevalent issues among my clients no matter what their age. The issues can range from infidelity, insecurities, to attachment in both children and adults, as well as betrayal within friendships- just to name a few. Once we get through the “what he/she said about me”; “who he/she did whatever with” or “how he/she isn’t responding or communicating”, we discover that the core issue is really a lack of clear understanding of exactly what a relationship is and what it means to be in a relationship.
A relationship is merely a way in which two or more people are connected, which includes friendships, parent-child relationships, sibling relationships, and workplace relationships among others. Identifying the type of relationship is usually the easy part, but the work comes with defining what it means to be in a relationship and what each individual’s expectations are. Here’s a summarization of the perceptions/expectations that I’ve personally heard and experienced:
1.) having a supporter
2.) a confidant
3.) a listener
4.) holding each other accountable
5.) having someone to make you feel safe and secure
6.) having the ability to trust
7.) having a mutual respect for each other
8.) having the ability to be yourself
9.) having someone that uplifts and empowers
10.) having someone that you can depend on
Everyone’s perception of what it means to be in a relationship is different, is their expectations of what is required in a relationship. I’m curious about your perceptions of what it means to be in a relationship, and what some of your expectations are. Don’t be shy; bless me with them below!